" I was trapped, the dumb bitch ruined my life. If you were having sex with this girl you should have not put yourself in a position where this happened. Now if a pregnancy happened despite using birth control then yeah I’d be inclined to agree with you and responsibility would be taken on both parts but that isn’t what happened and rarely does because of how effective birth control is. Different people can have drastically different experiences with the same brand of birth control. He never explains how he came to the conclusion that she lied about being on birth control. His partner admitted to lying about the BC and admitted that she tampered with his condoms. She then asked me if I wanted to be in or out to which I replied out of course, seeing as how she had lied to me about her ability to become pregnant (properly used birth control coupled with a medical inability to become pregnant present a very slim probability of her becoming pregnant if this were, in fact, the truth). There may be many reasons as personal as the number of people that do it. Both liars. The community for Old School RuneScape discussion on Reddit. And I'll stop being paranoid. 10M subscribers in the relationship_advice community. First, never put responsibility of birth control on the girl - always wear a condom or don't get intimate. so i (21M) was just told by my girlfriend (22F) that she hasn’t been taking BC (Birth Control) for a month at least. A place to ask simple legal questions. Yes. it sounds like he cares more about his sexual needs than your emotional, physical, and mental health. Crypto My wife's told me her period was late and she was worried because she missed a few days on her pill last month. 5M subscribers in the relationship_advice community. In cases where a couple does not want a pregnancy, each should be using birth control if possible. One woman, who lives in Sandhurst, believes she or her boyfriend may be The thing is, a few weeks or so before that day, I let him know I was thinking of getting birth control, but I failed to tell him that my purchase couldn't be processed that time because of a card issue. I got really turned on feeling his extremely hard cock grinding into me with my legs all wrapped around him. i’ve been on birth control and hated it and i don’t wanna go back on…. Birth control sucks for a lot of women, and that is no excuse to lie to someone about taking it, but I hate people getting the idea birth control is easy. I told her I'm not bad but… You cannot have a meaningful relationship with someone who is capable of such deceit. Well, 2 months after she “started” to take Birth Control pills she got pregnant. They hit it off immediately and started officially dating within a few hours of meeting. Birth control fails all the time. It is not considered rape under the law to lie that you are on birth control. But you've always been very clear that you didn't want kids, and she failed for two months to tell you she had gone off birth control. She quickly replied with an exasperated/annoyed emoji. P. Expecting him to assume she's lying and to use a condom anyway is just unreasonable. Not only that, but after I found out she continued to lie about it and refused to tell me the truth until I talked with her other boyfriend and he confirmed what was happening, then she fessed up. Think long term. Her lying about being on birth control will carry absolutely no weight. But likely it doesn't matter. Lost weight on it, so that was a good side effect. ” This pattern continued for several months before the relationship ended. Being told, I didn't really want you to be the dad, can be super soul crushing. Got a vasectomy the same week. My brother’s wife lied about birth control…. It doesn’t make the man in this case an idiot to not use a condom when the woman claims she is using B. We spent an entire year actively discussing the prospect of children and very mutually came to our decision. She was afraid the other moms would think she was letting me run wild. Taken so the obviously unstable leech can't raise more unstable leeches to further drain the rest of us. I see this as no different than poking holes in condoms or microwaving birth control pills to render them useless. Both of you are responsible for using birth control. Birth control pills are supposed to be taken at the same time everyday. ” Business, Economics, and Finance. She lied stopped her birth control and didn't say anything and hide the pregnancy till the hospital called him to say congratulations it's a boy! He caught her lieing with the second one. Right from the beginning of our relationship I made it clear that I wanted children in the future, and she said that she wanted kids too. Going on birth control (especially hormonal birth control) is a very serious decision and tends to come with side effects. I would have used a condom. Marriage/Children. She could have been on the pill, ended up having to take an antibiotic and it reduced the potency of the birth control. While it's best to try and quit smoking (not only so you can safely take estrogen containing BC, but in general for the whole laundry list of problems it can cause to Showing you a positive pregnancy test doesn't prove she is pregnant. Even if the context is she just wanted a sperm donor. Crypto Need intent to commit a crime. It’s basically stealthing and is rape. It sounds like a way for him to wiggle out of this looking like the victim. Reply reply. MontanaRogues. I am excited to become a Dad. Also, you're not entitled to her actually aborting. Eyebrows raised. Second, if she gets pregnant (and you suspect it's deliberate) don't assume she will get custody and you'll pay child support. They can be fake, they make novelty ones that are always positive, and you can get a pregnant lady to take one and give it to her. so you can do stuff like wake your partner up by going down on them without it being classed as sexual assault, because you have implied consent), She is black and I am half black. It's not illegal to lie unless you're under oath or being questioned by a fed or etc. P. Need Advice - Girl Lied About Birth Control, Is Now Pregnant. can i lie (birth control) my derm basically said i have to be on birth control in order for her to prescribe me accutane. She's effectively just ended your relationship (because she's shown you she can't be trusted) and if she decides to keep the baby, you won't be involved. The clinic near me offers the pill and a shot, but today I was having a conversation with my aunt and she told me that the one she used to be on and the one her daughter is on causes them to get their periods only 4 times a year, clear up their acne and keep them skinny while getting rid of period pains. true Consequently - even a woman that is on birth control may use condoms with casual partners - or partners they know have an STI / STD. If you're concerned, use a condom or don't have sex. Girlfriend has decided she wants to use birth control when we get married. She showed me she is tested and STD free so I’m not worried about STDs. I would never lie about something like that. She lied to you in a hurtful way and that is the issue, not the pregnancy. He did his part by asking her if she was on birth control. This community supports antinatalism, the philosophical belief that having…. For me, I will never go back on it now seeing how much it muted my emotions and sexual desire. Even after many men are raped (forced to penetrate) by women who later get pregnant. She has been really good at preparing her apartment for our baby. First off i’m female and i’m talking about a female acquaintance, she’s my boyfriends friend, not mine, we get along but that’s it. There would be enough of a discrepancy in the levels because if someone is taking birth control on a regular basis, their entire hormonal level shifts drastically. Yes, my assumption is that she lied to me. We recently got told by his daughter that her mom hits her. [deleted] (M18) My gf (F18) might be lying about birth control. You will know soon enough with visual evidence if she is pregnant. It's going to be a little girl. My mom had always spoken to me about leaving sex until marriage, but in my own personal opinion, I think that’s a lot of bs (my opinion). ", and receiving nothing the rest of the night. She wouldn't be the first ex to lie about it. Especially going to all the appointments and being excited about it and telling people and pictures and yeah. There's also the fact that it's possible to become pregnant without lying about being on birth control, because birth control is not 100% effective. Posted by u/meatballsub76 - No votes and 9 comments 11 votes, 40 comments. Maybe she wants a kid, maybe she wants a kid she can get child support from so she’s financially stable. MembersOnline. I’ve known Amelia since we were in kindergarten. I know a lot of women who struggle with it, and will keep struggling with it, because they don't want a pregnancy right now. She can't take birth control any more due to the horomone issues causing flairups with the MS, so I volunteered the snip as it's the only fair way to go, and I have always intended on being with her forever. Microgynon - slight body hair reduction, psychotic rage, gained 7 kilos (15ish pounds for you US folk). All the time. A little back story my friend was single and i introduced her to my male friend. If the topic is ONLY pregnancy then yes. My ex lied to me about being on birth control. Need help with your relationship? Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or… When I couldn't take anymore I wrapped my arms around him to keep him close to me. 218K subscribers in the antinatalism community. Oh that sounds like a long process. im a lesbian. I have been dating my girlfriend (baptized Catholic but has protestant beliefs) for almost 3 years. The point is she has consented to sex under the condition he wears a condom, meaning there is no longer consent once the condom is removed, hence the debate about whether this is rape or not. A very small number of women will get pregnant with perfect use of their birth control. 9. Consequently - since both carry the risk of pregnancy, but only one carries the risk of STI / STD transmission - it could be argued that “stealthing” is worse than lying about birth control. Edit: I asked a similar question in r/AskFeminists and you all may find the discussion interesting. These are potential reasons, not saying they are her reasons as she is the only person who could know. For example, I’ve had basically no side effects with mine but my friend takes the same one and gets two week long periods so she’s going to switch brands soon. The system supports mothers. She always makes FB posts talking bad about me and calling her own daughter a cracker and saying how much she hates she got with a white man (my now fiancé). My mom knew about it, of course, and my parents were abstinence until marriage people. Three and a half months later she had a really bad miscarriage and had to be hospitalized. Because only women take birth control. My friend reassured me and my male friend that she was on birth control pills and had a non hormonal Iud inserted so there Original Post: Girl lied and said she was on birth control, now she's pregnant. Update for ex that possibly lied about birth and conception of child after 15 months. She lied to you for an entire month to get what she wanted, and shows absolutely no remorse for it. I agree this is a major scumbag move. Her daughter is also half black. At this point he asked if I was on birth control. 6M subscribers in the legaladvice community. Both are bad but they’re not the same and I’m tired of Reddit equating them. A community for the quality discussion of The Wheel of Time series of novels by Robert Jordan (& completed by Brandon Sanderson) as well as the streaming adaptation on Amazon Prime, the first audiobook recordings by Michael Kramer & Kate Reading, the second audiobook recordings by Rosamund Pike, the graphic novels adaptation by Chuck Dixon & Chase Conley, the collectable card game, the video My gf recently told me that her getting birth control was faked. GameStop Moderna Pfizer Johnson & Johnson AstraZeneca Walgreens Best Buy Novavax SpaceX Tesla. We’ve been dating for two years now. • 7 yr. She wants to have raw sex and insists she is on birth control. If he doesn’t think he ever wants a child, he should get a vasectomy. However, very few people actually have perfect use. A woman on birth control for extended periods of time has such a hormonal shift that it's possible that even after stopping they aren't likely to continue ovulating and having periods for a length 34 votes, 23 comments. But you'll need to make an appt with family planning on the 1st day of your period, go through nurse/doctor appt first before they can prescribe the pills. 855K subscribers in the 2007scape community. 175K subscribers in the Vent community. true. Its not one or the other. Hello, title pretty much sums it up but I am located in Nebraska and a girl that I had casually seen a few times told me on multiple occasions she was on birth control and I found out she lied about being on birth control and is now pregnant. It's that last part that goes from irresponsible gf to psycho manipulator gf that you should immediately leave behind. She's now pregnant, and has told off my friend and won't speak to him. Normally I’d say that this was ESH. He sat us up and massaged my hips. you should make sure he hears your needs, and you may need to make a tough decision if he can’t be understanding. Now when we hang out it’s purely platonic. Had a bad day? Tell reddit about it… Business, Economics, and Finance. Three days ago she said she'd gone out and got a pregnancy test and that she's pregnant. She would tell us she hit her in the head and butt. Too many stories of girls getting knocked up where the BF thought they were on birth control. Making something illegal doesn’t mean stupid people won’t do it. So basically a girl I was casually seeing was told by a doctor she couldn't get pregnant, due to some trauma earlier in her life. She really doesn't have any plausible excuses as to how did this happen (even though she tries to come with many that don't make any sense). He got her pregnant but she lied about birth control. Theres usually not definitive evidence in cases where men deceptively impregnate women, and men usually end up paying for a kid they didn't want or go to prison, but when the same ammount of evidence is presented for women May 31, 2022 · Plot twist! A woman, who lied to her boyfriend about being on birth control, said she was dumped because of her dishonesty. Join us for game discussions, tips and… Tell her if she decides to keep the baby, that's her choice. NSFW. I have a good amount of evidence saved (multiple texts and videos) where she tells me she is on birth control and shows me her pills. Some people have awful experiences coming off birth control. Sometimes its the person going off of birth control without telling their partner wants a baby and isnt thinking about the stability factor in their future (or gaining consent from their partner). 280 votes, 152 comments. 18 votes, 31 comments. All of this is assuming that there’s actually a specific crime involved, which I’m unsure of. What are you thoughts on women lying about being on birth control? 335 votes, 247 comments. This isn't a horrible lie (like I said, you were expecting/ accepting if the birth control failed) and you will easily recover from it. At the time, I didn't want to stress him out even more by telling him I didn't actually have birth control yet. Yep it is and this is how my cousin ended up with 2 kids. ” She said she was. The reason the Man still needs to pay child support in this situation is because he consented to sex, knowing that neither Condoms or Birth Control are 100% effective. I woke up this morning at 3 AM in fear I was actually closer to our mutual, kasi i’ve actually met him in person, then the girl I met online. So I’m 19 and I haven’t dated many people in fact I’ve only dated two people. Posted by u/384001051montgomery - No votes and 5 comments You don't EVER trust a girl (and I'm a girl) saying she's on birth control because you have no way of actually verifying that she is. Business, Economics, and Finance. If you go to polyclinic for BCP, it's like $30 for 6 months. There are multiple forms of birth-control and ways to prevent sex. They divorced not long after. You need proof that she lied, and proof that she intended to get pregnant for child support Lastly you need police and a judge sympathetic to you versus her. The issue of birth control (after Don't know if it's his cum or mine, but I do know I haven't taken birth control for 3 years naomiandnoah I told him I wasn’t on birth control but he didn’t care Law always supports women. If she lies about birth control, she is the one being irresponsible, not him. Just 'cuz a woman takes birth control, that does not mean you are free to not protect yourself from an accidental pregnancy causation. I was out on birth control at 16 by a doctor to try and mitigate some extreme anxiety I was having. I don’t really care that I haven’t lost my virginity but I had quite the scare a few weeks back just after I broke up with my second girlfriend. . I acted surprised (well, actually I really was surprised) and just said what I assume the normal thing to say is in that situation. My [35] wife [33] lied about being on birth control. Unmarried men afraid of child support should be wearing condoms even if their girlfriend or one night stand says she is on the birth control pill/has an IUD/etc. So when she says “btw i haven’t been on bc for a month, but it’s okay bc i just bled Even if a woman says she is on Birth control, a man still has the option to use a condom. I would advise you to reflect on whether you are truly interested in starting the BC pill and, if not, wait until you do need it (whether that’s for periods, pregnancy prevention, etc). then continued with their amorous activity, and “had intercourse that included intravaginal ejaculation. ” My mouth dropped. He continued on by saying, “uh, yes you did. When i visited her in the hospital i found out she lied and was never on birth control to begin with, she was just trying to trap me with the baby. I have NEVER taken birth control in my life. Please, consult a lawyer. His wife (now ex wife) lied about being on birth control, and they got pregnant. I have a text of her admitting she never told me she 1. So my (22F) mom found my birth control pack, where I had hid it for a couple of months now… she does not know that I have been sexually active for the past year, and I feel like I broke her trust. My older brother didn’t want any more children. He then put on a serious face and said, “Yeah, but you also told me you were taking birth control. ago. That quickly turned into a passionate make out. Long story short, she lied about being on birth control, she got pregnant, he ghosted her and was really “nonchalant” about the situation and never even tried to reach out, guy was also VERY financial incapable cuz guy they are both minors? Posted by u/[Deleted Account] - 3 votes and 18 comments Stealthing is probably slightly worse than a woman lying about birth control, and I don't think either would rise to the form of sexual misconduct I'd have in mind when I say "rape", but yeah I'd absolutely feel violated if I had sex with someone without a condom because I thought they had birth control and then I found out they lied. But lying about condoms is worse in general because birth control pills and shots and all that can't offer any protection against STD's and condoms can. You can lie about your personal life to other people all you damn want. A month ago she said she got an IUD inserted. 1K votes, 857 comments. ADMIN MOD. For me this is blatant hypocrisy, If lying about wearing a condom is rape, why isn't it when a women lies about being on birth control, the man is forced to pay child support. So last time I posted in here I explained my situation about 6 or 7 posts below. The whole surprised face thing. Sort by: Bluehusky24. Men will lie and say they were lied to about birth control, pregnant women (especially teens) will lie and we will have huge numbers of young men wrongfully accused of rape. I NEVER told him that. ago • Edited 7 yr. Stopped crying over inanimate objects. Men are still forced by the courts to be financially liable for the kid (lifetime of financial slavery for being raped). We both have well-paying jobs and are financially secure. C. So, after many arguments she reluctantly agreed for us to start conceiving only in 2012. NTA, but there’s a problem if you feel like you need to lie about birth control to keep your partner happy. My wife and I have been married for 5 years and together for 8. The fact I was taking it, even though she trusted me, embarrassed her. 1. if i lied and said i am do i have to prove it or something? She lied. then is extremely upset that she now doesn’t get to raise it alone. The day of the pregnancy test she told me that she lied about birth control the whole time. I followed up with "I don't know what that means", and several minutes later, "Please, just reiterate to me that I have nothing to worry about because of your birth control. However, I haven’t seen the same debate about women that lie about being on birth control. Your were entitled to not impregnating her, by using protection, but you chose not to act on it. I’m seeing her this weekend (Feb 6) and going to have unprotected sex. I lied. When I had her, I was terrified of getting pregnant again, so I started birth control right… Theres no more evidence in either situation than there is if she lies about birth control, but she wins in every situation. and D. Long story short, she lied about being on birth control, she got pregnant, he ghosted her and was really “nonchalant” about the situation and never even tried to reach out, guy was also VERY financial incapable cuz guy is a minor n jobless girl is prolly a year or two older. He already has two amazing kiddos. Posted by u/Ok-pigeon - No votes and 86 comments 2. There’s worse reasons, she could be a “gifter” and trying to infect you with something (like HIV). She lied and said a doctor had told her she couldn't have kids. There was one case where a woman used sperm she salvaged from oral sex to impregnate herself that man A women lied to me about being on birth control. Yesterday we were having sex and I was on top of her. Unfortunately for you if she is pregnant and it is yours you will very much be on the hook for child support. I was trying to get myself out of her life, but she ruined that and my life just to shoot my money in her arm, and nobody cares. posts about relationships longer than 6 months post go to r/relationship_advice or if you are married ADMIN MOD. Need help with your relationship? Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or… this sub is for advice about specific dating situations not general debates. My LO turns a year old April 14th. Jan 24, 2018 · When she said that she did not, he asked if she was “on the pill. There's a reason she's my ex. •. D. Since then A (my ex who I'll be referring to) has hired G who I'll be referring to as such as her lawyer. Ever since me and boyfriend have known her, she’s always complained about her boyfriend of seven years, how he refuses to take care of their 1 year old kid, how he doesn’t have a job, how he It could have been any dishonest action (not specifically the pregnancy) that impacted your trust in her. A friend of mine was sleeping with a girl who never told him she wasn't on birth control. 2intld • 1 yr. ”. When I told her I was nearly there, she said “I lied about the IUD. It’s shitty to lie about being on birth control, sure - but pregnancy is still something a woman goes through that completely changes her body and can result in long term health issues and even death. I don’t think your doctor lied. BUT. For context she likes to be “done in” and absolutely hates anything else, especially when i pull out because it “drips”. Being a male, he had no rights to whether they would keep the baby or not and she wanted to keep it It's his responsibility to ask if she's on birth control and it's her responsibility to tell the truth. In that time, I’ve grown in my faith and went from basically atheist to actively trying to follow the church’s teachings. My lawyer recently called her lawyer to see how a would feel about a dna . She got pregnant, then admitted she wasn't on birth control, and had assumed that OP was using a condom, and his partner said they were also on birth control. This is simply a subreddit dedicated to venting. Skin returned to it's blotchy normal self and thick black hair started springing up all over the place again. Any instances of diarrhea or vomiting can make it ineffective. I asked her if she was on birth control, she said yes. That's correct, even the pamphlet mentions it to be a dangerous increase in risk (as in, to the point where the risk outweighs the benefits) if you're both over 35 and smoking. My moods improved, but that doesn't happen for everyone, some people can experience the opposite where their moods get very depressive. I told her I'm not ready to have another kid yet. Not to mention stealthing can result in STDs as well. She lied about her birth control, them got me hammered one night after I caught her spitting her pill in the trash and wouldn't touch her for a few days. 5. I agree, but it will create a similar problem that abortion only being legal in cases of rape and incest will. Yeah that's why a lot of places will sorta lump everything into the sexual assault category, since rape is a fairly specific term and allows people to use mental gymnastics to avoid it, whereas assault is a very broad term and can encompass a lot of things so as long as a country has stiff sexual assault penalties you can avoid that stuff. I will be there 50:50. I'll pass on advice from my mom (that she gave my brother and I). Lying about being on birth control is abhorrent. I don't know. Also, as new partners you should be use condoms anyways , STDs and all. I believe this because she lied to my face several times when she was cheating on me. SOmetimes it is to trap a partner in a "relationship. Crypto We’re going to keep it. bqdjqykyltvdwlmpcyga